Graceful Warriors

IMG_0612My friend Deb was the best flea-marketer ever. She could ferret out vintage like nobody’s business. My 1960’s raybans, my Coach purse, my beautiful Mexican wall hanging, were all gifts from her.

When she found a lump in her breast, she didn’t do anything about it. She was scared. She hoped it would go away and she didn’t tell anyone not even her husband.
By the time she did tell someone, it was too late. The cancer had spread. She died less than two years after she found the lump.

She was a lovely, giving, caring person and I miss her.

I have two other friends who developed breast cancer. One very young, the other a grandmother. Both survived. One with the help of traditional means, the other with the additional help of alternative therapies.

Breast cancer is something that touches everyone.

It seems to me though that often the focus is wholly on the survivors. I mean the women who go through chemo and keep their breasts. You can look at them and be unaware that they have survived a terrifying illness and a grueling recovery. This is not a criticism- these women should be celebrated and honored.
But what about the women who lose a breast or both? Who don’t fit the picture we have of feminine beauty anymore?
Are they marginalized? Ostracized? Pushed to the side because they make the rest of the survivors ‘look bad’? What about the women who lose the fight? Are they lesser? Did they not fight as hard? Did they give up? Did some part of them not want to live as much?

And why is a woman who has won the battle less beautiful if she emerges wounded, scarred, not physically whole?

My cousin, Fine Art Photographer, Charise Isis has always celebrated the feminine in women of all ages, shapes and sizes. She is amazingly skilled at revealing the inner beauty of a woman through her art. When she began The Grace Project, she saw these women as warriors rather than only survivors. Of all the women who suffer and survive breast cancer, the women who’ve had mastectomies are often the ones who hide themselves away or are hidden away, because of societal perceptions, because of shame, because of a loss of identity.

The images she captures are strong, beautiful, powerful, inspiring, upsetting, emotional, devastating, unforgettable and heartbreaking. Which is what art should always be. She gives these women a voice, she demands that they be heard and seen, she lets them reclaim their strength and beauty. (I love that she uses Goddesses and classical Art as her provenance).

Recently The Huffington Post, Bust Magazine, and The Daily Mail ran articles on her and The Grace Project.

This entry was posted in Inspiration, life, posts. Bookmark the permalink.

9 Responses to Graceful Warriors

  1. donna curtis says:

    hi wondering when pocket full of posies will be coming out my daughter just started ashes ashes thanks

    • Treggiari says:

      Hi Donna,
      sadly there are no plans right now to publish Pocketful of Posies. I’ve been busy writing other books! Maybe some day in the future I’ll have the time to complete the story.

  2. Please let me know if you’re looking for a article author for your blog.

    You have some really great posts and I believe I would
    be a good asset. If you ever want to take some of the load
    off, I’d really like to write some articles for your blog in exchange for a link
    back to mine. Please send me an email if interested. Kudos!

  3. isis charise says:


  4. Keenan says:

    Simply wish to say your article is as astounding. The clarity in your post is simply great and i can assume you are an expert on this subject.
    Fine with your permission allow me to grab your feed to keep updated with forthcoming post.
    Thanks a million and please carry on the rewarding work.

  5. Having read this I thought it was very informative.
    I appreciate you finding the time and effort to put this article together.
    I once again find myself personally spending a significant amount
    of time both reading and leaving comments. But so
    what, it was still worth it!

    Feel free to surf to my web page:

  6. Spot on with this write-up, I honestly believe that this amazing
    site needs much more attention. I’ll probably be returning to read more,
    thanks for the info!

  7. Fiona says:

    We are a group of volunteers and opening a brand new scheme in our community.
    Your website offered us with useful information to work on. You’ve done an impressive activity and
    our whole neighborhood will be grateful to you.

  8. There was a time when download call of duty advanced warfare playing.

    Recent advancement in mobile video games much, just point
    it somewhere, open Zune and go and don’t mind bunking down with an obstacle.
    Help option will guide you to beat his challenger on the later into its system.
    If you want to do is check out BF3 Dominator!

    Also visit my blog … Selecting Important
    Factors Of Download Call Of Duty Advanced Warfare –,

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published.

You may use these HTML tags and attributes: <a href="" title=""> <abbr title=""> <acronym title=""> <b> <blockquote cite=""> <cite> <code> <del datetime=""> <em> <i> <q cite=""> <strike> <strong>